THE PLACE OF TOLERANCE IN MAINTAINING A UNITED FAMILY.

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Nwasir Aguwa- Professional Web Developer Of The Eastern Nigeria,
 

I welcome you all to todays edition of the secret of maintaining a united family. Today, we are going to consider the need for tolerance in our families if we must enjoy unity, peace and progress as one family member or the other. 

                                                               TOLERANCE:

By dictionary definition, tolerance means the willingness to tolerate or accept people, something or behavior you would not have agreed with. That simply means that you cannot tolerate unless you are willing to pay the price. Thus, to tolerate certain behaviors or lifestyle of people calls for a price payment. Remember that no two individuals can have exactly  the same behavior  even the identical twins. To this tolerance becomes a very sensitive and critical aspect of human life.

I will also like you to understand with me that every creature survives because of their ability to tolerate or adapt to situations around them. For instance, for a plant to survive the long dry season and flourished again during the raining reason, such plant/plants must have tolerated the long period of dryness, hash weather and high temperature. Similarly. as humans on earth living around and encountering hundreds, thousands and millions of people daily, we can only survive and remain happy in the atmosphere of tolerance. Beside, tolerance cannot be subtracted from  socialization in so much that man remains a social being.

     Tolerance has therefore become a key factor in every level of socialization with men, starting from the family where we are coming from to education, business, religious, political and any professional level. Thus  when this great and important value  and virtue is missing from our lives, it means our life will be full of troubles, quarreling, fighting, hatred, anger, evil heart and so on.

Now, since tolerance is a wide and broad topic which cannot be covered within the scope of this blog content, I will like to limit my view within the scope of this content by talking about the place of tolerance in maintaining a united family.

Back to our home, many families today has been scattered because of the inability of the man to tolerate his wife and vice versa. And many children has deserted their fathers house and their homes because of the inability to tolerate either the behavior displayed by their father or their mother. But on a  normal sense of human reasoning this is not supposed to be so in as much that the family members are of the same blood.

The question is why all this odd situations noticed in our families and how can these be tackled.

Anyways, I may not provide you with the answer to these questions within the scope of this content but I promise to do a little justice to it. Any day you expect anyone either your husband, wife, children, father, mother, brother, sister, uncle aunty, and so on to display for you 100% behavior as you desire,that is the day you failed because as you are trying to tolerate others, others  the same way are trying to tolerate you.

    Meanwhile in a family of four children; A, B, C and D  giving birth to by the same parents Mr. E and Mrs. F in as much as   Mr. E and   Mrs. F cannot exhibit the same lifestyle, then don't expect those children to exhibit  the same lifestyle  as well. When you understand this, you accommodate and tolerate all.

Family intolerance is the major reason for the following odd circumstances in our families today;

1. Divorce and Remarry: When the husband and the wife find it difficult to tolerate each other the   end result is quarreling, fighting, beating and finally return to your parents which is divorce.

2. Curse Statements:   As a result of the inability of parents to tolerate their children's behaviors, must parents prefer cursing their children to correcting them and to this the children will turn to something else and even plan the death of the parents that gave birth to them when they have suffered series of frustrations in life. This is so painful.

3.  Scattered Homes:  In the atmosphere of intolerance, many children are chest away from their

fathers house to become fugitives and vagabonds like the old testament Cain. To this many children that would have profited their families, communities, states, nations and the world at large has turned to a wasted investment.

4. Stagnant Homes: As a result of intolerance in many families, the development that would have come into such homes are denied as most of the children from such homes consider it more better to remain where they are in another place than to stay with their intolerant parents. To this, they cherish to develop the place they are tolerated by people than to carry the development down to their fathers house. Thereby living their own family developmentally stagnant.

In summary, when any family lacks the ability to accommodate and tolerate the lifestyle of its members it can result to; Conflict, Social isolation, Missed opportunities, Fear and Anxiety, Low self-esteem.

All these are very inimical to the growth, progress, development and prosperity of any family.

Note; In the atmosphere of tolerance, unity is maintained and progress is established and vice versa.

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